Do you have a love/dislike relationship with food? Do you instantly feel tired when you read this question?
What would you do with the extra time and energy if deciding ‘what to eat’ wasn’t constantly bogging you down?
Our ruminating thoughts affect our lives every day. I have had a doozy one for a while. I broke something and felt heaps of shame and couldn’t sort how to problem solve this, which then caused more anguish. Does this resonate with you?
Where does this self doubt originate and operate from?
You know the saying/feeling of “waiting for the other shoe to drop”. This fear is most likely from our past programming trying to protect us. Whether there was an incident where it did drop, which we ALL can pretty much resonate with, or it is a constant state of being. This is NOT our conscious mind, because in the moment of defense it may not be true. This is called our subconscious mind.
The definition of subconscious: “concerning the part of the mind of which one is not fully aware but which influences one’s actions and feelings”
Your subconscious’s capacity is virtually unlimited and it permanently stores everything that ever happens to you. Have you done a nutrition program in the past and had great success with it, and when you try it again you do not see the same results? Your nervous system and subconscious is being overprotective and this is why.
Your subconscious mind causes you to feel emotionally and physically uncomfortable whenever you attempt to do anything new or different, or to change any of your established patterns of behavior. The sense of fear and discomfort are psychological signs that your subconscious has been activated. And it has been working to establish those behavior patterns in the background long before you’ll ever notice such feelings. The first time you did the program, you were more present and curious and then the second one, your subconscious established the markers of what is not going to work again.
The nature of our mind conceptualizes, organizes and compares information. However, when we make decisions we don’t just use logic, we access our inner reasoning. This process utilizes many of our faculties such as:
- Our many senses
- Our creative mind
- Past conditioning and traumas
- Our dreams and desires
- Our limiting beliefs and past habits
- feeling safe and considering if this situation is trustworthy
To differentiate between if we are in auto pilot when we make decisions from our subconscious or we are present in the moment, let’s use a donut craving (if you like sweets) or chips (if you crave savory) as examples.
Is the donut or chips a “Yes” for you in this moment, or is this certain craving guiding you to pause? If you tensed up already, your subconscious is kicking in!
Here are a few questions to ask yourself to discern how to practice being present instead of smoldering your thoughts and cravings. This inquiry isn’t meant to beat yourself up or create more judgement. Place your hands on your heart and gut and consider these questions.
- Am I trying to numb or rebel from something or someone?
- What is the benefit of eating or not eating this?
- What comforts and emotional needs are not being met?
- What am I detaching from or avoiding?
- Am I just giving myself an excuse to eat this?
- Is this behavior a habit or pattern of mine in certain situations?
The hope is that these answers will give you more clarity and this moment of pause helps us to respond versus react. The more we pause and reflect, we will continue to trust our OWN reasoning.
“The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity. The fears are paper tigers. You can do anything you decide to do. You can act to change and control your life; and the procedure, the process is its own reward.”
— Amelia Earhart
The best way to work with your subconscious is GENTLY with a sh*t ton of compassion for yourself! Stay tuned for my NEW Master Class that will give you an outline on how to ease choices with food, while doing this safely for yourself!
Love from your nourishment leader,
Heather Fleming, C.C.N.
Your purpose in life is simple: it’s to be the BEST version of yourself each day. The problem is we have a ton of thoughts going through our mind telling us why we CAN’T do that, like:
I don’t have enough time
It’s too late for me
That hasn’t worked before…
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