My client just said the most amazing thing to me. “I have noticed that the more confident I am about my food choices, the more confident I am about expressing my needs.”
Wow! That is so profound. Are you getting your needs met? If not, how does food try to replace those needs?
Most of us may have been told through out our life, “Get over it”, “Be quiet, not everyone gets what they want”, “Don’t even bother asking”, “Don’t be selfish”.
“What if being selfish is the most selfless thing you can do?” –Joseph Campbell
Other people can not read your mind or try to support you without you sharing what you need. It is up to us to stay in our power and express our needs without fearing conflict or emotional reaction of others.
A few ways to make sure you are getting your needs met:
- Lay down and rest for 5 minutes a day. Re-center, re-group. Whether it be in the grass, on your bed, or your floor or Shavasana in yoga class.
- Drink water and breathe when you are feeling your stress level rising.
- Ground your body into the earth. Pretend your feet are roots into the ground. Most of us live in our head to much and this leaves us feeling disconnected.
- Make a meal and light a candle. Make a list of all of the things you are grateful for and reorganize what is important for you on how you spend your time.
- Ask for help. Receive love from others. You are helping them as much as they are helping you. A plant can not grow if it doesn’t receive enough light and nourishment.
Receive more love,
Heather Fleming, C.C.N.
Photo by: Simon Schlegl